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Do not include identifying information in your profile, including your full date of birth, or information about your children or immediate family. Do not discuss your children with anyone until you have met and feel comfortable with your date. |
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When you're emailing or chatting, do not give out your real name, address, place of employment, phone number, mobile number or personal email address until you have met and have a good feeling about your date. |
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Use iChurchNetwork.com's email to establish contact, instead of giving out a personal email address. iChurch Network's triple-blind email process removes your outside email address to help protect your privacy. |
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| Virtual first date |
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It's important to get a good feeling before meeting someone in person in the offline world. An online virtual date allows you to see a face, hear a voice and get to know your date's personality before you take that offline step. |
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Request your date's picture before you agree to meet in the chat rooms or in person. A picture serves as a means of identification. |
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When you meet online, verify your date's profile information and verify key details from email exchanges. During and after your virtual date, ask yourself these questions:
- Do I get an overall uneasy feeling about my date?
- Does my date make me feel uncomfortable?
- Is my date unable to verify key profile facts or details of email conversations? Are there any inconsistencies?
- Did my date raise any oddly out-of-context subjects, like financial needs or medical problems?
- Did my date make any inappropriate suggestions or cross any lines?
If you answered yes to any of these questions you would want to consider any additional meetings very carefully before you agree to them. |
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| Meeting offline |
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Agree on a well-lit public place like a coffee shop or a restaurant for a first meeting. Agree on a length of time for your meeting. Make your first meeting during daylight hours. |
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Wear conservative clothing to your first meeting. Avoid suggestive language and jokes. Avoid alcohol or anything that could impair your judgment. |
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When you go out, always carry your mobile phone, coins for a pay phone and taxi money. Tell someone where you're going, the screen name of the member you're going to meet, your mobile number and your estimated time of return. Invite a friend to go with you to the meeting place, and ask your friend to watch you from across the room. |
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Use the date to further verify information you've been given. At the end of your first meeting, you can decide whether to exchange names and phone numbers with your date. Even if the date is going well, do not extend it beyond the allotted time. |
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If you feel uncomfortable, stop the date and leave by taxi or leave with the friend who is watching you from across the room .Do not leave in your own car. Ask an employee of the location to walk you to the taxi. |
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If information your date provided was untrue or if your date contacts you inappropriately, immediately inform authorities. |
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Never agree to be picked up at your home. Always provide your own transportation to and from your date and meet in a public place with many people around. |
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